Intuitive Illuminations Newsletter September 11, 2013

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A Legacy Of No Regrets

The word legacy appears to be popping up all over the place for me lately. I feel it is only fitting on this day of September 11th that we stop and reflect upon the fateful day when we, as a nation and as world citizens, were shattered like glass by the events that occurred not so very long ago.

It was a day when decisions were made and consequences for those decisions were played out upon the world stage for all to bear witness. We will never forget the fact that so many brave souls started out their day as seemingly ordinary men and women and in a blink of an eye, became extraordinary heroes. In doing so they left us their legacy of strength, courage and undying love.

This causes us to question our own lives. We must ask ourselves: What legacy will we leave for others? What would we like to be remembered for? And what has brought us our greatest joys?

I believe that every human being yearns to know that he or she has made a difference in the world by being here and contributing to the greater good of all in their own unique ways. A contribution for the greater good of the whole is likened to a miracle; there are no large or small miracles there are only miracles.

I recently ran across an article about an Australian nurse named Bronnie Ware, who interviewed countless dying patients in their last weeks of life. In her book, The Top Five Regrets of Dying, she discovered that many people regretted the very same things. The regrets are listed as follows:

1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others wanted or expected of me.

This was by far the most common of all the regrets. It is the place where we look back on our lives and see where we might have sacrificed or even sabotaged our own dreams in order to please another.

2.  I wish hadn’t worked so hard.

Most every man expressed the regret of having missed so much of life by choosing to make a living at the expense of having a life. The women that were heads of the household also expressed their regrets of not taking enough time to be with their families. They just kept running on that giant hamster wheel and never took the time to step off. Unable to step out of the factory worker mentality these men and women might have considered taking time off to be frivolous or lazy. Only to discover later that they had robbed themselves of their joy.

3. I wish I would have had the courage to express my true feelings.

Many of those that expressed this regret developed illnesses that had to do with resentment and indignation resulting from having stuffed their feelings. Speaking up for oneself is an act of self-acceptance and freedom. It must be so sad to look back upon your life only to realize you never stood up for yourself or convictions. We must learn to express ourselves with grace and ease in all ways.

4.  I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Many regretted becoming so caught up in their day-to-day lives that they allowed their friendships to fade away. They didn’t realize how much they had missed their friends and how much those friendships had meant to them until they were forced by illness to take a good long look at their lives. They never quite found the words to express how much their friends had meant to them and what a difference it had made in their lives.

5. I wish that I had allowed myself to be happier. 

This regret was the most surprising of all to the dying person, as it wasn’t until they were indeed dying that they realized that happiness is a choice. What they discovered was that they had allowed their fears to hold them back from living the life they really wanted to live. They had settled for being comfortable and, in the end, they realized that they were the ones all along who held the key to their own happiness. They were their own judge, jury and jailer. The key was right their in front of them all along.

Let’s not waste anymore of our precious time waiting for the other shoe to drop or for someone else to give us their approval. Let’s go out there and live life to its fullest each and everyday. The time is here and our life is now.

What is your deepest regret and what can you do right now to turn things around and begin living your life on purpose? Whatever it is, go do that! Choose to live your life with no regrets. Now that’s truly a legacy you can be proud of.

In Light & Love,



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