Good For Now

photo 13Recently, I have been noticing repeating patterns in my life and those around me. It’s as if we’re moving into a place of deepening empowerment. We are being presented with experiences that beckon to us to take a stand for what we believe in. By taking a stand we are able to consciously slow down and be present in each moment. Our lives become vignettes of moving meditations. I believe the Universe presents us with opportunities everyday to either stand firm in our beliefs by reaffirming and redefining them or selling ourselves out. The most common cause for selling ourselves out is our need to please others. We do this by sacrificing our own needs, dreams, or desires in order to avoid conflict or confrontation. We simply settle for less than that of which we desire.

One of my groups is loosely based around the prose poem The Invitation, by Oriah House. In the poem there is a line that reads:

I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.

It takes courage and conviction to stand our ground no matter how uncomfortable it makes us feel. However, the wisdom and power gained in the knowing that our personal freedom lies within is the golden ring we have been reaching out to grasp all along. We are anchored in our own authenticity when we are able to move through our own discomfort.

We sell ourselves short by betraying our true selves in order to please another. This is an act of disrespect and disempowerment which leaves us feeling and playing small. In most cases the other person is oblivious to our act of self-betrayal; we certainly are not. We are the ones that silently simmer to a slow boil until it’s run its course or the next sell out arrives. Either way we are left to marinate in our own juices over the choices we have made or that have been made for us.

What opportunities are you being presented with in order to stand in your truth? Is it something that you have been passive about in the past and can no longer remain silent? Has someone said or done something that just doesn’t feel right to you? Have you expressed your true feelings about something that feels inauthentic to you?

Depending on your answers to the above questions you might want to examine where you have been giving your power away and then choose to reclaim it by expressing yourself openly and honestly. It’s one thing to set healthy boundaries, however it is an entirely different thing to keep them shored up and enforced. After all we really do teach people how to treat us by the actions we take and the word that we speak. When we are true to ourselves in all we say and do there is no need for others to make assumptions, second guess us, or misconstrue anything we might have said.

In Italy when you ask someone, “How are you?” They reply, “Good for now.” I just love that response as it applies to right now in this very moment and at the same time it implies that this too can and will change at some point. You will know you are coming from a place of authenticity when you are posed with the question, “How are you?” and you begin smiling from the inside out and answer, “Good for NOW!”


Shirley Swift-Wilkinson


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